Odell & Vivian

During our vacation, we went to visit Luray Caverns. Jon and I had memories of visiting as kids and we thought that it would be fun to take Cooper. He's at a great age for "amazing discoveries" and he was in awe of the visit- almost like he couldn't believe what he was seeing. Really, we all felt that way. It's truly incredible to see these stalactite and stalagmite formations and to realize how they were created over millions of years. The visit was perfect.




Because our visit to Luray went so well, and Cooper was so into the whole cavern deal, we decided to tour another cavern on the following day. Our friend Jess (owner of the cabin) had mentioned a lesser known (therefore, less crowded) nearby cavern. I checked their website and it seemed ok, though not as "professionally done" as the Luray site. They boasted having an elevator to go down into the cavern and I figured- what can go wrong.?

We drove up and were greeted by gnomes and a giant Cootie. Jon glanced at me as we continued toward the main building. A single tour bus was in the parking lot. Another sideways glance from Jon. We get out of the car, and there is an announcement- in 2 languages- saying that the bus will be leaving in 15 minutes and to please complete your purchases and return to the bus. The next stop would be the City of Baltimore. At this point, a flurry of passengers fly out of the front doors of the cavern. Yet another glance from Jon- this time with a raised eyebrow. We continue our journey and Jon makes a stop in the restroom. I'm doing lots of self talk at this point and Cooper pulls on my arm- about 6 people were gathered around a cat, feeding it cheetos and taking pictures like there is no tomorrow. Deep breathing begins- and more self talk. I cannot leave this place- we are going to tour the caverns.

We are called to report to the elevator for our tour- Jon, Cooper, myself, the tour guide and an elderly couple walk into the elevator to begin the tour. These caverns may have an elevator, but the paths seem to be a little more rugged than Luray. Our tour guide is a little less polished than our guide at Luray, the lighting is more harsh than Luray- almost garish in some places and the formations seem a bit more primitive. No matter- Cooper is happily skipping along the path, looking at stalactites and loving it. I relax a bit- but I can't make eye contact with Jon for fear of laughing hysterically. How do I get myself into these situations?

This cavern was discovered by 2 little boys- and Cooper is fantasizing about making a similar discovery of his own. Our guide receives a call on her cell phone (she said that she got coverage to a certain point in the cave- but not the whole way) and there is a woman who will be joining our tour. We wait for her, and it takes a while for her to arrive. During this time, we talk to each other, and to the guide- we don't talk to the couple. They are quiet and haven't asked any questions- I don't recall even hearing them talk to one another. The woman joins us, and we discover that she speaks very little English. We continue our tour, with this strange little group of misfits.


We walk to a large "room" that has a ton of amazing formations- things that look like bacon, and the capital building with snow all over it.

We are surrounded by beauty and wonder, and so we stare and take in all there is to see. And then, from the corner of my eye, I see the woman turn to her husband and I know instantly that something is wrong. I tap Jon and he starts to move towards the woman because it's clear that she is in trouble. And then, she collapses and as she falls to the ground, hits her head on a stalagmite

Have you ever had a moment where it seems that time almost freezes, because something so terrible is happening right in front of your eyes? It's only for an instant and then everything begins to move again at light speed.

We all run to her and I get there first, Jon holds the man because he's crying hysterically and our guide is running down the path yelling that she'll get help. She is unconscious, and I'm panicked and thinking the worst. She's completely white and limp. I've got her basically in my arms and am talking to the man to tell him the we're going to help her and she's going to be ok. Jon was ready to begin cpr but realized that she was breathing- which made all of us breathe a sigh of relief- she's still unconscious. Our guide comes back and tells us that help is on the way.

A few key points that help illustrate the situation-
1) the temperature in a cavern is a constant 54 degrees
2) water is dripping from random places in the "ceiling"- they call them cave kisses.
3) this is the 2nd time in less then 2 months that Cooper has witnessed someone passing out cold right in front of him
4) neither Jon, nor I have any medical training
5) it is against the rules (and maybe the law) to touch stalactites or stalagmites.
6) the woman who joined our tour late has no idea that we are not "with" the couple.
7) there isn't anywhere to sit in a cavern- except the floor.



The woman is Vivian and she is 87 years old. She and her husband Odell were in the area to celebrate their 66th wedding anniversary. Vivian is a cancer survivor (multiple times) and Odell was in the Air Force and served our country in WWII. He was a B-26 Marauder Man and was a POW in Africa for 3 years. He is an American Hero. They are an incredible couple- with so much history together and so much love for each other.

Vivian came to and was frightened, understandably. She was also in pain and unable to move. She had a wound on her head from the stalagmite and was resting in my arms with her head in Jon's sweatshirt and was covered by the jackets of her husband and our guide. We were all together in a cavern for more than an hour until the rescue squad arrived and then afterwards for what seemed like another hour. The manager and assistant manager came down in the cavern to wait with us- when they arrived, they asked me for the details because they too thought that we were all together. They were shocked when we said that we didn't know them at all.

And that's when it hit me.

We were supposed to be here, gnomes and all. It was the plan and God was with all of us the entire time.

I am thankful that Jess told me about the cavern
I am thankful that we didn't turn the car around and leave without touring the cavern.
I am thankful that Jon and I had a moment when we knew, at the same instant, that something wasn't right and there was no hesitation on either of our parts
I am thankful that our son, although scared, was able to see how important it is to help one another- even strangers
I am thankful that the personnel at the caverns were quick to act during an emergency
I am thankful for the Rescue Squad- all volunteers- who climbed down into a cavern and carried an elderly woman gingerly out through the winding paths and stalactites. She was treated with dignity and kindness throughout the whole ordeal
I am thankful that Jon was able to comfort a man who was in agony with worry about his wife
I am thankful for the strength to remain calm and in control through the accident
I am thankful that the place that Vivian fell was seemingly on the roundest stalagmite in the cavern- and that her injuries, although serious, were not worse.

Once the rescue squad arrived, and ensured that Vivian was stable, they carried her, on a backboard back to the elevator- almost a mile away. We passed another tour- about 30 people were lined up single file in the cavern to give the rescue squad room to pass. We followed, I walked with my arm on Odell to steady him. I can only imagine what those people were thinking. When we got back to the lobby, Odell drank an apple juice to make sure his blood sugar was ok- I was worried sick that he'd pass out too. Before she lost consciousness, Vivian had turned to tell Odell that she had vertigo and wanted to sit down. We didn't want the same to happen to him.

Odell went to the hospital in the ambulance with Vivian. The cavern manager drove Odell's car to the hospital and the assistant manager drove his car to pick up the manager. Jon, Cooper and I thanked everyone for their kindness and they offered to buy our lunch.
We declined- and headed out, thankful that the day had a happy ending.

It almost seems like it didn't happen....it makes me wonder about the chain of events. It makes me sad that we didn't talk to them from the start, why didn't we? Jon says that he had a bad feeling from the start, which was why he was keeping an eye on them and knew what was happening. But still, what is wrong with me that I didn't say hi from the start? It makes me happy that we had a chance to make a difference in their lives. It makes me proud that Cooper saw that his parents are kind and caring and that he knows that there is goodness all around him even if he can't see it.

It makes me hope that someday, I'll be celebrating 66 years of marriage with a man that I love dearly- just as Vivian loves Odell.

Ok, Diana....

I started blogging sort of on the "down low" after asking a few friends for their opinions. I didn't get an overwhelming response from them (to say the least) but I really felt a pull- like I was being led to it- and so, I began. Fast forward almost 4 months and one of those friends has not only begun her own blog- but she's literally OBSESSED! I love her dearly, and she has "tagged" me to do what I believe to be called a MeMe.

Just for you, Diana!!

The game: Scattergories

The rules: Use the first letter of your first name to answer each of the following. They have to to be real places, names, things - nothing made up. You cannot use your own name for the boy/girl names.

1. What is your name? Carolyn

2. A four letter word: Coke (I prefer Diet!)

3. A vehicle: Camaro (no, I didn't have one!)

4. A city: Charleston (LOVE it there!)

5. A boy's name: Cooper (sweet child of mine)

6. A girl's name: Catherine

7. Alcoholic drink: Carolina Kamikaze (to be honest, I've never had one- however, I've got a terrific memory of me and one too many plain Kamikaze's many years ago!)

8. An occupation: Cashier

9. Something you wear: Clothes

10. A celebrity: C. Thomas Howell (stay gold, Pony Boy)

11. A food: Crabs!!! Love them!

12. Something found in a bathroom: Comet (hopefully)

13. Reason for being late: Can't quite get out of bed!

14. Something you shout: Crap!

15. An animal: Cat

16. A body part: Calf

17. Word to describe yourself: Caring

Home from Vacation!

We had quite a few adventures last week while we were on vacation. Our plan was to visit some Virginia "landmarks" and relive some of the vacation memories that Jon and I had from our childhoods and then perhaps add a few new experiences for all of us. We have some wonderful friends that very graciously offered us the use of their cabin- we enjoyed all the comforts of home and couldn't have wanted for anything better!

We started off at Natural Bridge.

We had prepared Cooper for the trip and had shown him pictures and talked about what we'd be seeing. He was really excited about seeing the bridge, and the place that George Washington carved his initials. The absolute highlight for him though, was staying at the hotel. You'd have thought we were staying at the Beverly Hilton- the kid was beside himself with excitement. I reserved a room with a balcony- a balcony is actually on his wish list for Christmas this year (more on this I'm sure in later posts) and you would have thought that I gave him million dollars! Anywho....the trip to Natural Bridge and the stay at the hotel were a huge success. Jon and I enjoyed the visit as well- it's definitely an overnight only type place- and you can easily be sucked into the kitschy stuff surrounding it- but we did the bridge and the hike to the falls, ate in the dining room, and called it a day!

Cooper & Jon checking for wildlife

Cooper & Me on our balcony

We left Natural Bridge and headed to the Virginia Safari Zoo. I had heard some good things, and we did a bit of research...but nothing could have prepared me for the experience that we had. If you are ever in the area, you have GOT to stop by! The Zoo isn't the most impressive part-but the Safari.....wow! Truth be told, it got overwhelming pretty quickly. Once we got a feel for what could happen, the rest of the visit was smooth and enjoyable. Let me just say that the food that they give you to feed the animals must be amazing- because they LOVE it. Take a gander at the beginning of our drive through the park. You'll hear a shot-like sound at about 18 seconds into the clip. That, is the sound of an emu frantically pecking at the food in my bucket.


Once we recovered from our fits of laughter, we were able to re-group and only fed from one window at a time- and only when there were single (or at least more manageable) groups of animals. Cooper's belly laughs are enough to cheer me up on the worst of days. I've seen this about 50 times and it makes me laugh each time! Enjoy!








When we were leaving, Cooper said- "this is the best vacation in the whole entire world!". That is what makes being a parent the best job ever!

Next stop- Shenandoah, Virginia for some relaxation, fun on the river and to explore the caverns in the area. The cabin was perfect- tucked in a remote corner of the Shenandoah River and exactly what we love the most- simple comforts. We loved spending time exploring. Jon and Cooper braved the river to search for creatures and to tube. I took pictures and read a great book!





Big News!!! We had a visit from the Tooth Fairy- Cooper lost his very first tooth on our 1st night at the cabin. Thankfully, that Tooth Fairy has great finding skills and Cooper was thrilled! Evidently, 1st teeth are rewarded with $5 and a note that sets expectations- subsequent teeth will be worth much less. Congratulations, Buddy!!


Ok, my post is getting long....I will capture some other vacation tidbits on my Thankful Thursday post this week. For now, I am so glad that we're home safely and have memories that will surely last a lifetime. We had such fun, saw some incredible sights and learned some life lessons that are priceless.

I simply adore my boys!


Hugs!
Carolyn

LemonAid

What a great afternoon! My fun friend Diana (that's for you, Brian) is so philanthropic and inspired our Domino's group to sell lemonade to "squeeze out pediatric cancer". The program is sponsored by the Children's Miracle Network and I can't think of a better way to get kids involved in helping other kids. This weekend, there will be 700 LemonAid stands in Virginia. Each one dedicated to helping eradicate pediatric cancer.

We decided to call our stand, Domino Kids. I volunteered for decorations and had fun with the signage. Our stand was in a genius location and at our shift this afternoon, we raised $40. Shifts begin again tomorrow and will end on Sunday afternoon. Such a fantastic learning experience for our kids- and a feel so proud of yourself moment for each of us as well. We are all so blessed to be healthy and to be able to help those who are in need.

Diana and I worked together tonight and the kids were troopers. Simon and Cooper got off to a slow start....


but were soon pouring lemonade, taking donations, making change, and handing out stickers to the fantastic folks who stopped to support this worthy cause. We had a great time (we even had some support from the KING himself- thank you very much)!

Thankful Thursday & The Loose Tooth

I talked to my mom on the way home from work. Today was her 1st checkup after breaking her pelvic bone. She went yesterday to have an x-ray taken and the doctor gave her a great report this afternoon. Her bone has "knit itself" (is that grammatically correct?) back together and she's officially better! She can begin to get back to her normal routine- her body will tell her when she's pushed too hard. She is thrilled as is my dad- we all are! I am thankful that she received a clean bill of health and can begin to get back to her old self. She'll check in with the doctor again in 2 months, but she shouldn't have any long term trouble, in fact- her bone will be stronger than it was before the break.

Tomorrow is my last day of work before a week of VACATION! I am so ready for a week away and can't wait to get started. We're officially leaving on Monday morning after spending the weekend at the river. This will be the first vacation of its kind for us as a family. We're doing some touristy type stuff with some learning thrown in for good measure. Just like we did when I was little. My dad was brutal on a summer vacation- we all laugh about it now! I hope to have some great adventures to blog about when we return. I am thankful that we're able to take a vacation as a family and and have an opportunity to build memories like those that I have from my childhood.

Some little things to be thankful for- in no particular order:

-that Cooper is so happy with his summer camp situation. I have such a calm feeling each day knowing that he's being well cared for and is loving each second. I can hardly wait to hear how his days have been.
-the hornets nests (2 of them) that are no longer a threat in our yard, thanks to my brave hubby
-a belated birthday card from my friend Laura with a message that couldn't have been any more appropriate (or hilarious). I love that she knows me so well and can make me laugh so hard. I am incredibly appreciative of her friendship
-how good it feels to share the bounty of our garden with others. I took a bag of veggies to work and people that I don't really know were completely blown away. I love how such a simple thing impacts people so greatly


Big News- Cooper has a loose tooth! He announced to Jon that his tooth sort of hurt because he "hit it on a rock in the river". HUH? Upon inspection we discovered that in fact it was loose (river trauma probably a farce). He's been wondering when he'd have a loose tooth and I kept saying, oh- you're only 5....wait until your 6. Now he's 6 and he's got one. I took a quick video of it and am not the whiz at this yet. I can't get it to turn correctly- oh well. As always, I am thankful for that sweet little kid!

Weekend in Review (Watermelon....Fiasco!)

Couldn't get home fast enough on Friday....just threw a basket of clean clothes in the car and hoped that there would be something for everyone. Jon could literally wear the same thing all weekend, and sometimes does- but I'm not that laid back. Luckily, it all worked out.

Wade (Jon's nephew) met us at the river. He arrived first and it was so nice to pull into the driveway and be welcomed by lights AND a cool house. Usually we have to wait a bit for things to cool off and we feel around for the light switch after opening the door.

Everyone needs a Wade. He's the best, we love him dearly- Cooper idolizes him. They typically do to dinner twice a month (Cooper's choice- usually Chick Fil-a or McDonald's) and then either hit Target or Dick's Sports. In Jon's family, there is a phenomenon of sorts- each of his siblings has been adopted by an aunt, uncle or (in Jon's case, a neighbor- which could be an entire blog itself- I digress) during their childhood or "early on-your own stage". That person just sort of develops an extra special relationship with the child/young adult during that time and beyond. It's not a planned thing, it just happens. We are carrying the torch for the next generation and have adopted Wade, who moved to our town after graduating from college. He comes for dinner, family events or just to hang out and brings laughter, perspective and camaraderie for both Jon and Cooper. I reap the benefits in alone time with a good magazine, or in complements for the food I prepare and best of all, someone to witness the nuttiness that is sometimes our life! Complete Win/Win! Aren't they so great together!

So the big event this weekend was the garden. It's doing so great and I have tons of pictures and even more fresh veggies and we're all SO excited. The complete over the top crop for us this year is watermelon- anyone can grow a tomato (we've done it for years) but watermelon- that's HUGE. Please take a gander if you will of our journey.

Our friend Greg (an honest to goodness real life farmer), told us that his grandaddy always picked his watermelon when the leaf in the 1st "V" of the vine was dead. That was true today and so, we picked.

Here is a quick peek at Cooper giving "him" a new home.

Everything looks great....Jon gets a sharp knife and makes the first cut. We are each so proud that we can hardly stand it. The fruit cuts easily, and Jon turns to show us what we've so lovingly grown- none of us can say a word.
For a minute, I wonder whether we bought some crazy hybrid "white watermelon". And then it sinks in.....


Evidently, there is a magical step missing in Greg's grandaddy's practice for picking watermelon. Not one to give up without a fight, Cooper tries to love it.


At least we still have hope for the cantaloupe (and subsequent FULLY RIPE watermelons).

Hope you had a great weekend too!

Thankful Thursday

First things first- I've decided on a new blog layout that isn't from pyzam.com (just couldn't get over the tag line at the top of the page). I think this one works-and should satisfy me for at least another few months. Perhaps by that time I'll be willing to fork over some cash to have someone make one specifically for me.

Today Cooper had a field trip at camp. Roller Skating! He told me, through teary eyes, that he didn't think that he wanted to do it. I told him that he didn't have to if he didn't want to, but that I thought he might have fun if he tried. I packed the necessary "tall socks" and a notebook & colored pencils just in case things didn't go well. At least he'd be occupied.

I came home from work and he was all excited to tell me how great roller skating was. He loved it! I am thankful that my sweet child is taking more risks and trying new things. It's so hard for him. We talked about God being with him to give him strength whenever he needed it. Today was one of those days.

As he was going through the events of the day, he said that he had a funny story to tell me. Ok, shoot- Apparently, when he was trying to use bathroom, he had a bit of trouble. Once he got his pants down, the skates sort of took over and he lost his balance. He said, "Momma, I just fell right down on the floor and I couldn't get up!". This was one of those times when I simply couldn't hide my laughter- poor kid. The visual on that was priceless!

Last night, I spent some quality time with an amazing group of women. We shared a meal, lots of laughter, a few tears, and a healthy dose of secrets and realization....it was such a special night and I loved every minute. I am so blessed to have been led to the group- and am thankful for the opportunity to get to know some new friends, and to deepen my relationship with some old ones.

I've decided that having big personal goals is something that just doesn't work for me. I get overwhelmed and frustrated and it leaves me feeling as if I've failed. Yup- I'm just realizing this. Maybe I've known it for a while, but haven't been willing to admit it. Whatever the case- I'm trying small goals that are totally do-able and when combined over time may/will make an impact. Currently they are-
1) Apply eye cream nightly
2) Apply moisturizing sun screen regularly
3) Switch 1 drink per day to water
4) Climb the stairs at work once per day (I work on the 4th floor and it may as well be the 74th floor by the time I'm at the top. I can't speak -I can barely breathe- for at least 10 minutes after I reach the top)
5) Be more loving/appreciative towards my hubby!
I am thankful for the way I feel after achieving these in any given day!

In Search of New Blog Design...

This is a test...of free Blogger templates...and only a test.

Had a conversation today about blog templates, and since I'm a bit thrify, free seemed like a great deal. Thanks Dana!

Will try a few on for size and see what happens. My initial thought is that I don't love the pyzam.com logo at the top- of course, perhaps that's why it's free!!

Thankful Thursday & 4th of July Weekend

So much going on and time seems to be flying by so quickly! A short week last week to celebrate the 4th.....my Thankful Thursday post got lost in the mad dash for a long weekend so I'll combine them and call it a day.

I am thankful for a long weekend- time for us to be together as a family for a bit of an extended break with no expectations at all. I picked Cooper up from camp a bit early, met Jon at home where we threw things into the car and hightailed it towards the river. Having an extra night there makes a ton of difference. We arrived and basked in the wonderful-ness of the peace and quiet.

July 4th was a lazy day....ran some errands and went to the pool. Cooper probably put 10 miles on the golf cart- he so loves riding around. I can hear him talking to himself and singing as he whizzes by.

We got together with our amazing river family for a picnic. For the past few years, our tradition has been to have a picnic supper and then take the boats out and enjoy the fireworks on the water. You can see about 4 "real" displays from where we float and countless rookie shows- it's always been lots of fun. This year, we got rained out. Oddly, it didn't matter a single bit. The kids were occupied and the rest of us were completely content to just sit around and chat. Some of that may have to do with this dessert. I can honestly say that I have never (EVER) been even slightly tempted to try banana pudding. It's simply not my thing- at all. However, when Lisa brought this in the door and announced that it was a Paula Deen recipe....I was intrigued. I tried it- -and was hooked. I don't think that I'll start to eat banana pudding as a rule- but should I need to take a non-chocolate dessert to an event, I would certainly turn to this and feel great about it.

Note: Diana- if you happen to be reading this, don't worry.....I'll be bringing a chocolate dessert on Wednesday!

Lately, Cooper has had the opportunity to see or come in contact with lots of neat animals. He and Jon spotted a bald eagle in a dead tree visible from our property at the river and a raccoon trotted by the pool while he and Wade were swimming last weekend. We talked about it at dinner that night and I got an idea for a book (have you seen those great Shutterfly photo books?). We're now working on a book called, "Animals I Saw the Summer I was Six" by Cooper. I'm all about it and it seems that he's bought in as well. The plan is that we'll take pictures of the animals that he sees this summer, preferably with him in them- but that may not be possible....so, we'll see how it goes. Here is a sneak peak (with a croaker).



I also like this shot.

I am thankful that he has the opportunity to explore nature and that he is so filled with wonder at each new discovery.

When Jon's mom died (3 years ago in May), our river neighbors gave us a maple tree to plant in her memory. We did- and hoped that the tree would flourish. Will flat out told us that he wasn't convinced that it would make it but we had hope. We call the tree Lolo (Jon's moms name) and talk to her and about her all the time. She's grown a lot and is really pretty sturdy. Today Cooper came running in the house and said that he thought that Lolo had a bird's nest in her. So I grabbed my camera and off we went. Sure enough, that little tree is home to a family of birds. My pictures aren't great because I didn't want to scare them and I don't have the rock star camera that I've recently been dreaming about.

When things like this happen, I can't help but smile at the way God works. I am thankful for messages that come from heaven.

Note: I was showing Jon the pictures tonight and we were talking about how great it was that Lolo had a bird. At the same time, we both stopped and I said, "Lolo didn't really like a bird, did she?", he laughed and shook his head "No, she didn't". That makes it all the more perfect- she didn't like a bird, but she sure did like to laugh! We love you Lolo!

Cooper and I took a golf cart drive to the state dock. He loves it there, although it does leave a little to be desired typically. We visited 2 times today and I took some pictures that I really like. I've been inspired to look at things differently lately (with a new lens/eye) and these were today's view. I am thankful for beauty in unexpected places and sharing special moments with my son.




A close friend of Jon's came to visit on Saturday. He and his family are in the midst of a move and are living in 2 different states for the next few weeks until their home is ready to be occupied. We adopted him for part of the weekend so he wouldn't be by himself. I love seeing Jon truly enjoy himself with his peers. The stories that they tell and the great times that they've shared over the years (they went to college together) are priceless! They took Cooper spade fishing and Cooper was the only one who caught a spade fish- can you imagine the ribbing on that one!

This post is getting long....but I can't help it! Ok, last one....

This afternoon we were getting ready to come home and as we were packing, a rain shower interrupted us. The sky was bright and I thought it seemed like rainbow weather. I went outside to look- and sure enough- there was a rainbow! I yelled for Cooper and Jon and the three of us huddled together on the porch stoop and watched until it faded away. It was beautiful and an incredible end to an amazing weekend. I am thankful for my family- I love them so much.

Thankful Thursday

Yesterday my parents celebrated their 42nd wedding anniversary. 42 years! I am thankful for the love they've shared and for the lessons they've passed to me.

I'm happy to report that my mom is doing really well. She's been taking the pain medication regularly (which is helping her a ton) and seems to be handling the bed rest like a champ. I am thankful that she and my dad are surrounded with friends and family to make this time a bit easier to manage. I'm also thankful that the burden has been lessened some for my dad- that is a blessing in more ways than one!

Cooper's 6th birthday party was on Sunday. Typically, I do a family party with a few of our close friends and their children- sort of a cookout that happens to be Cooper's birthday as well. This year I felt like Cooper deserved a "real" party. I got really inspired by a geyser kit that I saw here and found a bunch of other experiments via Google. Take a look at the before and after for the "rocket" geyser!



A thoughtful friend gave me some lab coats that her church was using for VBS and I bought clipboards for the boys to record their findings. Jon helped me to drape the basement in tarps and Wade (our nephew) was on hand to help us be "scientific". 4 little boys had such fun- and so did 3 adults. Here they are making molecules with toothpicks and dots candy. I think they ate just as many as they connected.


I am thankful that the day was incredible and that Cooper loved every second of his party. After the boys were gone, Cooper looked so sad and I asked him what was wrong- his answer? "I'm sad because it's all over. I had so much fun Momma." I am thankful for my sweet baby kid!

Jon and I had a chance last week to spend some time alone (while Cooper was with my parents). We spent the time doing everything and nothing without responsibility. I am so thankful for this time together and for the amazing relationship that we share. Here's to 42 years- and more!

What's the Problem?

Today was Cooper's 1st day at summer "camp". He was up 1/2 the night in a panic because he doesn't like new places and he cried all morning (well, maybe all morning is an exaggeration- he cried for the 40 minutes prior to leaving for camp). Jon took him-he's so much better at things like that- he just drops him off to fend for himself, while I feel the need to coddle him and probably make it worse because I don't just rip off the band aid and leave him. When he came home, he was all smiles and said that he really liked it and had a good day. WHEW!! I figured that he'd be exhausted since he didn't sleep well last night and had played hard today coupled with the stress of it all. We climbed the steps at 8 and I figured we were golden.

At 9:37 I hear tiny footsteps approaching me while I was enjoying a little blog reading. This is the conversation.

Me: Oh, no buddy- what are you doing still awake?
Cooper: I don't know momma, I just can't sleep.
Me: Well, what do you think the trouble is?
Cooper: I think I must be a raccoon.
Me: A raccoon????
Cooper: Yes, you know- they are sleepy all day and they play all night. I think that must be the problem.

Yes, that MUST be the problem.

Thankful Thursday

I got the kind of call last night that everybody dreads.   My father called and said, "Carolyn, your mother had an accident today".   My heart stopped and I listened to what came next.   She's ok, but in lots of pain.  (long exhale....thank you) We've been at the hospital all day, she was discharged at 9:30 and now we're back.   And then my mom's voice on the cordless...."I'm ok Pooh, just hurting".

Cooper stayed with my parents after we left on Father's Day for what was to be a vacation for everyone!   Their church was having Bible School each evening and they had some little adventures planned during the day.   Yesterday, they went to a botanical garden about 40 minutes from them that has a great kids section.  They were going to explore a new tree house exhibit.  

They were almost finished when my mom fell-  she said that she got twisted up in her own feet. The pain was so intense that she passed out, certainly alarming for anyone- but especially for a certain just turned 6 year old!   Once she came to, she wasn't able to move, and the medical staff at the garden (who were wonderful) called the ambulance.  

Ironically, my mother ended up in the same exact hospital where she had given birth to me exactly 39 years ago (yesterday was my birthday).   Apparently, this irony was lost on the staff! They sort of dismissed her injury as a bad fall but with nothing broken or sprained.   She complained of the terrible pain, but they couldn't find a cause.  As she was being discharged, she got up from the bed, and passed out again.  So- back into bed and more testing & blood work followed.   She was told that she couldn't leave until she walked without passing out and after a few hours when the pain medicine had kicked in, she walked a few feet in the walker and was discharged.    

She called her doctor this morning and told her what had happened.   Her doctor sent her to a specialist right away.   The orthopedic surgeon took one look at her x-rays and told her that her pelvic bone was broken.   There wasn't anything that he could do except prescribe some pain medication and tell her to stay in bed for 3 weeks, then come back for a check-up.   

I was able to rearrange my schedule to be out of the office so that I could come up to 1) make sure that my mom was ok  2) give my dad a little support and help him to figure out how to take care of my mom (instead of vice-versa) and 3) bring Cooper back home.  

She's doing well.  The medicine is helping, but she's still in lots of pain when she walks or sits. As long as she's in bed, she's comfortable.    

I am thankful that God was with my mom yesterday and kept her safe.  Breaking your pelvic bone break is serious but is not as grave as breaking a hip.    She's going to be fine, although the recovery will be long, and the pain is intense.

I am thankful that my parents were close to home when this happened, and not traveling in a country where medical care isn't as available or reliable.  

I am thankful that throughout the ordeal, my mom was able to reassure Cooper (who adores her and was panic stricken) that everything would be ok.   Her focus was on him- and perhaps that helped her to get through her pain a little more easily.  

I am thankful that I was able to come and help my parents.   I am thankful that I work for a company that allows such flexibility.  My manager is on vacation this week and my VP heard my story and said-  Go- help your family.

I am thankful for the prayers that have been and will be said for my mom.   She has a wonderful support system, and although I won't be able to be with her for the next few weeks, she has friends and siblings who will.

I am thankful for my family- they mean the world to me!  I am so blessed.

Happy Birthday Cooper!

I cannot believe that he's 6 years old. The time has flown...he has grown so much since we brought him home from the hospital in his bucket seat- he's grown so much in the past month!!

So many things that I love about him.

I love to hear his voice. Sometimes I hear him singing to himself and it melts my heart. It's so sweet and full of the happiness that should be a part of childhood. We've worked hard to keep him "little" for as long as we could....and it's been so worth it.

I love to listen to him tell a story. He's so expressive and so intent on getting his message across. He's got a great imagination and is so creative as he weaves the pieces together in his mind and then watches to see your reaction.

I love to snuggle next to him at bedtime. The 3 of us curl up and read stories and talk about the day. The pets gather around the bed and it's such a great time to reflect and find out what's happening inside his little mind.

I love to see him laugh- the real, carefree, from the belly kind of laugh that we sometimes forget exists. He's got such a great sense of humor- it's one of my favorite things about him.

I love to hug him. His skinny little arms wrap around my neck and squeeze and I could just drink him in. I know these may not last for much longer but I can hope!

I love how much he loves his dog- truly boy's best friend. That dog has seen us through many a trauma....from lost toys to high fevers, bursts of anger to being scared of the dark. Their bond is so strong and so unconditional.

I love his passion for learning new things, not really risk taking things- but educational type things. He's constantly asking questions and I have to chuckle when he says, "let's just look that up on snakes.com" (or volcano.com or stormtroopers.com or whatever the subject of the day may be).

I love that he loves us and finds so much joy in our family. His favorite place is our home (or at the river) and nothing makes him happier than to spend the day at home as a family.

I love that he completes Jon and me and that we are better because of him.

Happy Birthday Cooper!

Happy Father's Day (thoughts from Cooper)

We were eating breakfast this morning, and this was the conversation.  Cooper calls my Dad, Pappy.

Cooper:  Pappy sure does know a lot about the Civil War.

Me: Yes, he sure does.

Cooper: He knows more than Daddy about the Civil War.  Daddy knows more about the Army though, because he was in the Army.

Me:   Did you know that Daddy and Pappy were both in the Army?

Cooper: Really?  Did they see each other there?

So sweet, innocent and hilariously funny!  

Happy Father's Day to Dad's everywhere, whether they were in the Army together- or not!

Thankful Thursday

In three more days, I'll be in Philadelphia at a Jimmy Buffett concert. That thought makes me so happy...I've been excited for months. My dad sent me the details for the show months before the tickets went on sale. Had it not been for him, I never would have gotten the tickets. He's all about an article in the paper or a blip on-line that may apply to me somehow. He carefully clips things from the newspaper or magazine, folds them in a funny, haphazard sort of way and mails bunches of them to me in envelopes with his familiar chicken scratch. They vary in topic, and sometimes include Haggar cartoons....but they are sent with such love and a desire to make my life better in some way, big or small. I am thankful for a father who shows me how much he loves me in the best way he knows how. I'm looking forward to spending Father's Day with two of my favorite fathers!

We'll drop Cooper at my parents and head to the concert with a diverse group of friends. My oldest friend in the world, Dawn is coming with us. She doesn't even really like Jimmy (I don't hold this against her) but said that she wouldn't miss it for the world because it would give her a chance to spend some time with us. How great is that? We're meeting two of Jon's friends from college who now live in New Jersey (we don't hold this against them). Will and Patty are hilarious- and my first introduction to them was 10 years ago at my 1st Jimmy concert. I've never been the same! Rounding out the attendees are Will and Patti's neighbors....have no idea who they are but am sure they'll be up for some fun. I am thankful for the opportunity to spend an evening doing something that brings out the best in Jon and me. Relaxing with friends, having no cares, singing my lungs out and laughing for hours!

I got a call from my brother tonight. He sounded absolutely elated......I couldn't imagine what he was so pumped up about. He's not someone that usually gets "over the moon"but he definitely was tonight. He could barely contain himself as he described the thrill of the catch and a play by play of getting this fish back onto the shore of the Pacific Ocean.



I am thankful that this fish fulfilled my brother in a way that he needed so much. I am hopeful that these memories will stay will him for a long time and bring him some peace.

Cooper has had a tough week. He's in flux at daycare while he waits for summer to come for children attending county schools. I've felt so guilty for not being able to spend this time with him and that I've had to leave him each morning in a situation that is safe and secure but not really ideal. He's looked so sad when I leave him and it tugs at my heartstrings. He'll stay with my parents next week and I am thankful that they are able to spend this time with him and that they have such a close relationship. A week at my parents may very well be better than a week at Disney World for Cooper. My parents are fortunate to live close to a ton of great activities/resources for kids. They are going to the Crayola Crayon Factory and Cooper is beside himself- he can hardly stand it. Each day this week he wakes up and says, "are we going to grandma's today?" The gift of having his grandparents and that they are willing and able to keep him for extended stays is priceless.

For so many reasons, too many to name, I am so thankful for the health and well being of our child. I hug him a little tighter and thank God for our blessing daily.

Funny Kid

I was clipping Cooper's fingernails and he was going nuts. For some reason, this is always a chore with him.

I said, "Cooper. Stop being so dramatic!"
He said in this small voice, "Well, Momma- you are."

I started laughing so hard- I couldn't stop. My laughing got him to laugh and we both had tears running down our faces (his may have come from the relief of me stopping the clipping because I was laughing so hard).

Then, his small voice asked, "Momma, what's dramatic?"
I love that kid!

Thankful Thursday

I've had so much on my mind this week to be thankful for, and hardly know where to begin. It's been a good week- busy, but satisfying.

My parents are home from England, arriving at JFK late Sunday evening. I'm thankful for their safe return and that they had a fantastic trip. They're fighting the jet lag but secretly, I know they love every second!

I am thankful that a certain snapping turtle had enough grace to leave my fingers attached when I tried to help him cross the road (see my earlier post this week for details).

I am thankful that Cooper completed kindergarten successfully! His year was a complete dream probably more so for me than for him- but he worked hard and we're very proud of him.

His closing ceremony was on Wednesday morning and it was so sweet. He struggles with crowds and told me that he was really nervous before we left for school. When they filed into the church, he wasn't where he was supposed to be- and I was worried. Then he appeared, clutching the hand of his teacher with soggy eyes and sniffly nose. She later told me that he said to her, "I don't want to graduate". She said she wasn't sure who had cried first- Cooper or her. I am thankful that he had an incredible teacher- one who filled his days with happiness, love, hugs and acceptance. It makes a world of difference.

I am thankful that my husband was open to receiving some feedback this week. I am also thankful that he provided me with some as well and that we were able to really talk through our issues and find some common ground and peace. He's wonderful and sometimes, I can lose focus on that because I get caught up in myself. I feel so safe in our relationship and truly treasure what we've built together.

I'm thankful for the interactions that I've had with friends this week. Some old and some new- I've laughed and cried and had some tough conversations, but through it all have felt wrapped in a cocoon of true friendship. That makes such a huge difference in my world.


Yesterday, a thick envelope arrived addressed to Cooper with a return address that I didn't at first recognize. Cooper opened the package and it was filled with art books and art supplies (a beginner drawing kit, colored pencils, 2 sets of paints, a tablet). My eyes filled with tears. There was a note included that read:

Dear Cooper,

A long time ago we met. Then we saw one another at a birthday party and another time after that.

Each time I saw your art work, I was amazed. Your drawing and coloring is fantastic. You are a great artist. Every person who is great at what they love keeps improving what they love. So I hope these art supplies bring you joy and encouragement to keep doing what you love.

Remember: Use your gifts! God gave them to you so that you could make the world better.

Your art brings joy to me...and so I am better when I see it.

Love and Peace,

Mrs. D

The woman is my sweet friend Christy's mother-in-law and she is a minister. The package came straight from her heart to Cooper. She's literally met him 3 times and each time included some interaction during which Cooper was occupied with an art project. I've had conversations with her about how much he loves to be creative- but really just in passing. She cannot know what a huge gift she gave to my son and the impact that her words have made on both of us. I was (and still am) overwhelmed by the thoughtfulness and love that were a part of this act of kindness.

I am simply- thankful.

I love a bargain!

Update! Went to Ukrop's tonight and glanced at their ferns....$19.99- I am SO proud of myself.

We (I actually mean, Jon) power washed the porch this weekend and so were able to bring the cushions out of storage. We can now actually use the space. Our pollen is so terrible that it's at least an inch thick in some places and power washing it away is the only option!


I rearranged the furniture this year and think that the space has some potential....but I needed plants. I've got these great planters that beg for ferns but I don't usually do super well with them. Anyhoo.....Cooper and I went to the Great Big Greenhouse to check out the selection. Ferns were $18 and I needed 2. Hmmmm- I wandered around to think about how worth it fems would be. I never realized that TGBG had a clearance section, but they do and wouldn't you know it- ferns for $8.99! They were a little haggard, but once I cleaned them up they're good as new (well, good as $18). I'm thrilled!

A funny thing happened on the way to school.....

The below was copied from an e-mail that I sent to Jon after dropping Cooper off at school this morning. I was so proud of myself for starting Monday off on the right foot...I was up early and was completely on top of everything. We were 10 minutes early on our normal morning route. Then- things turned wrong.

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Honey- On the way to school this morning, we saw a turtle in the road.......not your ordinary, run of the mill turtle that I am used to you finding along the road. This turtle was GIANT. I'd say his shell was 12 inches long and his feet, head and tail were HUGE. There might as well have been a cat in the road. Of course, I can't just drive by........so I stop. And Cooper is beside himself with excitement-he's climbing out of the car........

So- picture if you will, ME- trying my hardest to be a tough, nature loving mom because there is a turtle in the road and of course, if you were around there wouldn't even be a question- you'd handle it.
I try to pick up the turtle to move him to the other side of the road (I have already told Cooper that we cannot take him home) and the turtle clearly wants no part of me moving him. He rears up on his legs which seem to be amazingly strong for some bizarre reason and I freeze and drop him. Cooper is yelling at me- "save him momma"............great.
So I try again- and by this time my stomach is churning and I'm starting to freak out- my heart is pounding. This time, I pick him up and these turtle claws reach around (I have NO idea how this is physically possible- but it happens) and try to scratch me. Again, I drop the turtle and decide I need to get smart (I am now breathing quite heavily and trying to remain calm). I go back to the car and get this box top thing (you know that blue car organizer box thing that my parents gave us for Christmas) and I've decided that if I can get him onto the box that I can take him to the other side of the road. Not so- the turtle lurches at me and tries TO BITE me. Ok- so now I'm completely freaked out- my heart is pounding and I'm sweating. Cooper is now concerned- I am not sure whether it's for me, or the turtle. A car approaches and I think- oh good- some help has arrived. The car is driven my a 97 year-old man who clearly doesn't want any part of my turtle escapade. He drives around the turtle- very cautiously (thank you sir).

A second car approaches.......and pulls to the side. I can't see the driver- but there is a teenage girl in the passenger seat and she's climbing out of the car and then- HER DAD GETS OUT!!!HOORAY!!!!!!!!! He's going to save the day (he's a granola type man-thankfully). I say to him- "I tried to help him- but he's sort of a mean turtle". And he laughs and says- "Yeah- he's a mean one all right-let's see what we can do". At this point, his daughter is concerned-"Dad- be careful".........the man approaches the turtle and the turtle is already lunging at him.
What is with this crazy turtle? Hello- we come in peace!
The man picks the turtle up by his tail (I didn't even realize that this was an option) and the turtle goes nuts and is trying to bite the man and he calmly walks him over to the edge of the creek and puts him in the water. Crisis averted- turtle saved- the day can continue. I thanked the man profusely and then we all climbed back into the car and drove away.
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This is Jon's reply...
Hilarious! Great story- it was a snapping turtle...they are big and mean and best left alone. We are a small box turtle family.

So clearly, I have learned a huge lesson in turtles. I cannot wait to see what Cooper's version of the story is when he gets home and tells Jon tonight!



After doing some research, snapping turtles are known to be agressive especially when on land and can indeed remove a finger (is anyone sensing a "thankful thursday" reference this week?). My advice- if you see one....keep driving. I have included the below for reference!

Happy Monday!

Thankful Thursday

The week has flown by- that always seems to happen on holiday weeks. Even still, I am looking forward to the weekend.

I am missing my parents right now- they are still in England and although they were able to send e-mails earlier in their trip, I haven't heard from them all week. They will be back in the states on Monday so I don't have much longer to wait. Sometimes, you just want to talk to your mom...not really about anything specific- just about everything! I am thankful that I have such a loving relationship with my mom. She's so great (even if she's wearing a crazy scarf in London as I type!)

I had the best experience tonight. I went to deliver a birthday present to my god daughter. She turns 5 tomorrow and we aren't able to go to her party this weekend. I bought her a fun beaded necklace/bracelet set and some crafty "Klutz" books and thought she'd be pleased. At the check out counter, I noticed these magnetic earrings and thought that they might be fun so I added them to the pile. I can be a bit of a freak about kid stuff at times (it's true). I wanted to be sure that my friend Angela approved before I gave them to her since they were sort of an edgy item (edgy in an appropriate for a 5 year old sort of way). Ang gave me the go-ahead and so I tucked them in the top of the present and gave them to her. I never expected the type of reaction that I got- her face was priceless...she put them on and ran to the bathroom, climbed up on the stool to look in the mirror and said- "I think I'm going to cry!" How great is that? I am thankful for the innocence and joy that surrounds children and makes them so endearing.

Today I attended a "Leadership Brown Bag" session at work. You bring your lunch and an executive gives a talk on a particular topic. The topic today was career development. a) I love the executive that spoke- she's always honest and super real and just a good person. b) I've been having my own personal struggles with development and what to do next and this was so relevant c) Her message made so much sense to me- and validates some work that I've been doing recently. I am thankful that I have the opportunity to learn/grow in an environment that is safe and comfortable. I love feeling like I'm normal (well, for the most part!).

After reading an e-mail exchange between a group of friends, I picked up the phone and called one of them. I've never spoken to her on the phone before- but it was such a helpful conversation and it made me laugh. We both laughed- and it felt so good. I am thankful that God sends people into your life when you need them most.

Jon picked Cooper up today from a playdate. He said that the other dad commented to him on how impressed he was with Cooper's manners and how he was always so polite whenever he observed him. I am thankful that Cooper realizes the importance of the lessons that we're teaching him- some days it seems easier to let things slide but in the end, I'm glad we work at it.

Happy Weekend to you....

Wonderful Weekend!

We had such a fantastic weekend- we were blessed with incredible weather and we took complete advantage of it. Our goal was to leave on Friday after work so that we could really enjoy 3 full days of 'vacation'. It was tough- but we were on the road at 5:24. We didn't hit a bit of traffic and got to the river in record time. As usual, as soon as we turn off of the main road- the stress completely leaves us.

We're both (all) totally relaxed and at our absolute best at the river. It's pure heaven for each of us- just family time, incredible neighbors and the outdoors. Jon and I have needed to refresh desperately and this time at the river was just what we needed. This picture captures the innocence and beauty of it all, with some whimsy thrown in for good measure. The dog belongs to our neighbor and is always good for a chuckle!

Jon decided that we needed electricity and water in the barn and water near the garden so he, Cooper and a neighbor with skills put the plan into action. I felt like a queen and read a book in the yard and got in the best nap I've had in months! We went out for dinner, had great Mexican and were all asleep by 9:30.

Wade came on Sunday and spent the day with us, he's the best nephew and Cooper adores him. We had fun just hanging out and doing random jobs. We ended the day at a cook out with our river "family" that brought laughter, good food and an encounter with a groundhog. The day was complete.

Jon and Wade set some crab pots in the early evening on Sunday and on Monday morning we went to pull them. Priceless- I love being able to witness the learning that happens during each interaction. Cooper soaks in everything that his dad and Wade say and has learned so much about life on the water and how valuable a relationship with nature is. The education and experience that being at the river have given that little kid are worth more than Jon and I could have ever dreamed about when we bought the house. Besides the life lessons- we also got some delicious crabs for dinner!

Weekends don't get much better than this and we're so thankful for each second that we have with each other.

Author's Day & Thankful Thursday

I had the BEST morning! Cooper's kindergarten class has a tradition called Author's Day. The children each write and illustrate a book- it can be about anything that they want. They work on it for weeks and each book is dedicated to someone- again, anyone they want. On Author's Day, their teacher reads each story and the child sits next to her in "the author's chair". I didn't really know what to expect except that the moms who have older kids were all a flutter about how great it was going to be. I was dying to see what his book would be about- and a little nervous as well. I shouldn't have been. Here is the cover of his book-

Ok- please let me pause to say how excited I am that I've actually modified my HTML so that the picture appears where I want it to! Hooray- This blog is responsible for my expertise!

Cooper has had a love affair with turtles for years. Jon has an uncanny ability to find random turtles along the side of the road and will stop to pick them up to bring them home for Cooper. I think that the general plan is to keep them- but thus far, I've been able to thwart any such plans. Here is the dedication and page 1 from his book.

So, I teared up at the love that went into him dedicating it to us. All of the kids had such sweet dedications- some to their older siblings, a few to good friends or grandparents, 1 to a dog in heaven and a few others to either their mom or their dad. Following the "the end" page, there was a page called- About the Author. It had their picture and some facts about each child. There was a sentence that said- Something that makes me proud is... his answer? that I have a good mother and a good father. So perhaps we're doing ok after all!! Proud of his good mom and dad- now if that doesn't inspire me to want to work even harder to be a good parent- I'm not sure what will. After all of the books were read, there was a little reception and a slide show that captured every kindergarten event this year ....set to music that left not a dry eye in the room. Every child in the class has grown and matured from the first day of school and it was so wonderful to see how far they've come. His class was fantastic and his teacher- an angel. The day was good.

That brings me to Thankful Thursday-

1st, that we have been blessed with Cooper having a fantastic year in kindergarten. I firmly believe that this is the foundation for how kids feel will feel about school long term. Cooper was loved all year and his confidence has grown so much.

2nd, that in the face of unimaginable tragedy there are so many people who come together in prayer and to offer support to each other. It is nothing less than beautiful.

3rd, I am thankful for 2nd chances, and 3rd and 4th.....

4th, I am thankful for the upcoming long weekend- a time for us to rejuvenate and spend time focused on nothing but family. I am counting the minutes.